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TEEN DATES & DRUGS
 

WHAT ARE THE QUESTIONS

 

 

MY BOYFRIEND IS THE JEALOUS TYPE. HE FREAKS OUT EVERY TIME HE SEES   ME TALKING TO ANOTHER GUY.  WILL HE EVER CHANGE?

 

IF YOUR BOYFRIEND DEMONSTRATES POSSESSIVENESS AND CONTROL OVER YOU NOW... THE   LIKELIHOOD THAT  HE WILL CHANGE LATER IN LIFE IS SLIM.   THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT OVER THE FEW YEARS  HE WONT MATURE SOMEWHAT.  USUALLY IF A PERSON IS OVERLY CONCERNED TO THE POINT  HE THREATENS, OR PHYSICALLY  MAKES YOU DO WHAT HE WANTS, THEN IT CAN CARRY OVER INTO THE ADULT YEARS.  

TAKE A MOMENT TO CHECK OUT SOME OF THE THINGS BELOW AND SEE IF THEY FIT YOUR RELATIONSHIP... NO MATTER WHAT THE AGE.  VIOLENCE CAN SHOW UP IN EVERY AGE.                                                                                                           

SOME WARNING SIGNS OF  DATE ABUSE OTHER THAN THE JEALOUSY  AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE:

  • THAT HE WILL TRY AND CONTROL YOU.
  • HE CHECKS UP ON YOU CONSTANTLY. 
  • HE MAKES FUN OF YOU IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
  • HE SCARES YOU TO THE POINT YOU DON'T WANT TO MAKE HIM ANGRY.
  • HE GRABS YOU, PUSHES OR MISTREATS YOU
  • HE DRINKS MORE THAN MOST TEENS. 
  • HE MAY EVEN DO DRUGS AND INSIST THAT YOU DO ALSO. 
  • YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS DON'T WANT YOU AROUND HIM. ( LISTEN TO THEM ).
  • HE MAY PRESSURE YOU FOR SEX.

IF ANY OF THESE THINGS HIT HOME, OR CAN BE ANSWERED HONESTLY BY YOU THAT THEY ARE TRUE... THEN THERE IS A GOOD POSSIBILITY THAT YOU ARE A DATE ABUSE VICTIM.

JUST LIKE DOMESTIC ABUSE... DATING ABUSE HAS SIMILAR  OUTWARD SIGNS.

                                                                                

WHAT SHOULD I DO IF HE IS ALL ... THAT YOU SAY HE IS ?

                               

THE FIRST THING YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF IS:  DO I REALLY WANT OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP?   IF YOU DO, THEN YOU NEED TO TAKE CERTAIN STEPS.

TELL YOUR PARENTS, OR FRIEND.  A SCHOOL COUNSELOR, OR CLERGYMAN.  IF YOU REMAIN ISOLATED FROM THOSE YOU LOVE, THEN YOUR BOYFRIEND WILL CONTINUE TO DO THE THINGS THAT YOU DON'T   WANT HIM TO DO.

LET YOUR SCHOOL OFFICIALS KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING.  IF HE IS IN YOUR SAME CLASSES, ASK PRIVATELY FOR THE TEACHER TO ASSIGN YOU A SEAT CLOSER TO THE TEACHER.

DON'T GET ALONE WITH HIM. ALWAYS HAVE A FRIEND WITH YOU. DON'T FORGET THE WAY JEALOUSY IS SPELLED. THE LAST PART OF JEALOUSY IS: "jeaLOUSY". THAT IS HOW HE TREATS YOU ISN'T IT? LOUSY !   YOU DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT WAY OF LIFE. HE IS JUST A BOYFRIEND... NOT YOUR MASTER, UNLESS YOU GIVE HIM THAT  RIGHT TO CONTROL YOU.

ALWAYS LET YOUR PARENTS KNOW, NO MATTER HOW DUMB IT SOUNDS, WHERE YOU ARE GOING, AND WHEN   YOU WILL BE  BACK. ALWAYS TELL THEM THE TRUTH.

YOU MIGHT EVEN REHEARSE WHAT YOU WILL TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND.  HAVE A SET ANSWER, AND DON'T DEVIATE FROM IT. HE WILL TRY AND TALK YOU OUT OF IT. HE MAY EVEN SAY THAT HE WILL KILL HIMSELF IF YOU LEAVE HIM.  NOW THAT IS A REAL SIGN THAT YOU ARE IN A SICK RELATIONSHIP.  

THEN IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO LEAVE... THEN DO IT AND DON'T LOOK BACK. THERE ARE MORE FISH IN THE SEA THAT SMELL BETTER.  LIFE HASN'T PASSED YOU BY, JUST TAKEN A DIFFERENT ROAD.

REMEMBER EVERYTHING CHANGES. SOMETIMES FOR THE GOOD, AND SOMETIMES FOR THE BAD, BUT IT ALWAYS CHANGES... SO STICK AROUND, AND MAKE SOME GOOD CHOICES.

 

WHAT IS DATE RAPE
 

MOST TEENS TALK ABOUT DATE RAPE, BUT LIKE EVERYONE ELSE FEELS THAT IT WONT HAPPEN TO  THEM.  

YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE YOUR BOYFRIEND TRIES TO TALK YOU INTO SEX, STATING  THAT "EVERYONE DOES IT" SO WHY NOT YOU.   HE WILL KEEP ON TRYING TO WEAR YOU DOWN WITH PRESSURE AND REASON. HE MAY BEG, PLEAD AND EVEN WHINE UNTIL YOU GIVE IN.

YOUR BOYFRIEND MAY EVEN SAY THAT YOU MUST NOT LOVE HIM OR YOU WOULD DO WHAT HE ASKED. HE MAY EVEN TELL YOU THAT IT IS NATURE, OR IT IS ONLY NORMAL TO SHOW LOVE IN THIS WAY.  HE MAY SAY THAT IT PHYSICALLY IS INJURIOUS TO HIS HEALTH FOR YOU NOT TO DO WHAT HE ASKS.

IF YOU DON'T GIVE IN, THEN HE MAY RESORT TO SLIPPING YOU A DRUG TO GET YOU TO HAVE SEX.  MANY YOUTH, AND EVEN ADULTS HAVE BEEN SLIPPED "MICKIES" IN THEIR DRINKS. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE HARD LIQUOR. IT CAN BE A SOFT DRINK.  YOU MUST BE AWARE OF THE TRICKS  THAT GUYS USE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT.  

IF YOUR DATE  GOES  TO GET YOU A SOFT DRINK, OR IF YOU HAVE TO USE THE RESTROOM AND LEAVE   THE TABLE WHERE YOUR DRINK IS SITTING, BE AWARE OF POSSIBILITIES OF SPIKED DRINKS. 

IF YOU'RE AT AT PARTY, AVOID PUNCH BOWL, OR COMMUNITY DRINKING AREAS WHERE SOMEONE CAN   SLIP AN ODORLESS, TASTELESS DRUG.

IF YOU ARE REALLY SUSPICIOUS OF YOUR BOYFRIENDS INTENTIONS, ASK HIM TO SHARE YOUR DRINK    WITH HIM AS A ROMANTIC GESTURE. TELL HIM YOU SAW IT IN A MOVIE SOMEWHERE.  IF HE DECLINES,   THEN IT MAY BE A SURE BET THAT YOUR DRINK HAS SOMETHING IN IT TO KNOCK YOU OUT, OR AT LEAST MAKE YOU SO DROWSY THAT YOU WILL HAVE TO BE HELPED TO THE CAR, AND EVEN TO HIS PLACE. HE MAY EVEN HAVE A PLACE SET   ASIDE TO TAKE YOU.

YOUR INHIBITIONS ARE DOWN, AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO MAKE CONSCIOUS DECISIONS.  MANY TIMES   YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENED AFTER THE DATE. YOU MAY WAKE UP AND     REALIZE  SOMETHING IS WRONG, BUT YOU CANNOT REMEMBER THE FACTS.  NOW THAT'S A NICE DATE    ISN'T IT... AND THAT IS A GUY  YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH KNOWING THAT HE ACTUALLY TOOK YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION, OR YOUR KNOWLEDGE.

WHAT ARE THE MOST COMMON TYPES OF DRUGS, AND WHAT DO THEY DO.

THESE DRUGS ARE SUBSTANCES WHICH CAUSES YOU TO PASS OUT, OR PUT YOU UNDER LIKE AN ANESTHETIC,  SO THAT YOUR MUSCLES RELAX, AND MAKES YOU SEEM  LIKE YOU ARE EXTREMELY INTOXICATED AFTER  CONSUMING ONLY A SMALL AMOUNT OF THIS DRUG.  YOU MAY HAVE ONLY HAD      HALF  A BEER, OR ONE  HARD DRINK. THIS ONLY HEIGHTENS THE EFFECTS.  

IF YOU START TO FEEL LIKE YOU ARE DRUNK, OR LIGHT-HEADED AND ALL YOU HAVE HAD TO DRINK IS  A SOFT DRINK, THEN YOU NEED TO HAVE  A TRUSTED FRIEND TAKE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL.

ROHYPNOL, KNOWN ON THE STREET AS:  ROOFIES, ROPE, RUFFIES, ROCHE', R-2, MIND- ERASERS, STUPIFI, SHAYS,  AND FORGET-PILL.      

THIS DRUG CAUSES A VICTIM TO PASS OUT SO THEY CANNOT RESIST WHAT IS BEING DONE, AND THEY WON'T BE ABLE TO RECALL WHAT IS BEING DONE NOR RECALL WHAT HAS HAPPENED. USUALLY YOU WAKE UP VERY CONFUSED, AND YOU ASSUME THAT YOU HAD TOO MUCH TO DRINK.  THE EFFECTS CAN LAST SEVERAL DAYS.

GHB , ( GAMMA-HYDROXYBUTYERATE )  KNOWN ON THE STREET AS:  LIQUID EXTACY,  LIQUID X, SCOOP,  EASY LAY,  GRIEVOUS BODILY HARM ,  GBH,  GEORGIA HOME BOY,  LIQUID HARM,   G,   SOMATOMAX,  CHERRY METH, GAMMA 10.

THIS DRUG HAS  A CALMING EFFECT. THIS IS A POPULAR DRUG AT CLUBS AND RAVES.  IT IS AN    ODORLESS, COLORLESS, LIQUID DEPRESSANT WITH ANESTHETIC QUALITIES.  IT IS SOMETIMES USED BY  BODY-BUILDERS.  IT CAN BE IN POWDER, OR TABLET FORM, AND DISSOLVED IN WATER.  IT TAKES ABOUT 10 TO 15 MINUTES TO GET THROUGH YOUR SYSTEM, AND IT LASTS  TWO TO THREE HOURS UNLESS COMBINED WITH ALCOHOL, AND AT THAT POINT CAN LAST UP TO 30 HOURS.  LARGE DOSES  CAN CAUSE YOU TO FALL ASLEEP SUDDENLY ( WITHIN 10   TO 15 MINUTES ).    

KETAMINE  HYDROCHLORIDE        KNOWN ON THE STREET AS:  SPECIAL K,     VITAMIN K,  KET,   KIT KAT,  KELLER,  CAT VALIUM,   PURPLE , SUPER C.

THIS IS A NEW DRUG THAT HAS BEEN ADDED TO THE LIST OF DRUGS CALLED " PREDATOR DRUGS".  IT IS  A POWERFUL DRUG USED AS AN ANIMAL TRANQUILIZER.  IT IS AVAILABLE IN LIQUID, POWDER, OR PILL FORM.  IT CAUSES HALLUCINATIONS, AMNESIA, AND DISSOCIATION, OR A FEELING THAT THE MIND IS SEPARATE FROM  THE BODY, WHICH MAKES THIS AN ATTRACTIVE DATE RAPE DRUG. IT CAN DISTORT JUDGMENT, TIME AND ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE.  IT CAN CAUSE NUMBNESS, BLURRED VISION,    TREMBLING, AMNESIA, CONVULSIONS, RESPIRATORY DEPRESSION, AND LOSS OF CONSCIOUSNESS. IT IS NOT UNCOMMON FOR THE EFFECTS TO LAST 4-6 HOURS, BUT NORMALLY DON'T FULLY RECOVER FROM THE DRUG FOR AROUND 48 HOURS.

THERE MAY BE MORE DRUGS THAT COME INTO PLAY, BUT THE BEST PROTECTION IS YOU. YOU ARE THE  ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR SAFETY AND ACTIONS.  DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN A POSITION TO BE RAPED  BY THE FOLLOWING ACTIONS, OR INACTIONS. SUCH AS:

LEAVING YOUR DRINK UNATTENDED. AGAIN, IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE ALCOHOL. IT CAN BE SOFT DRINKS. ANYTHING THAT A DRUG CAN BE DILUTED AND PASSED ON TO YOU.

NEVER ACCEPT A DRINK FROM SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW AND TRUST.

MONITOR THE BEHAVIOR OF FRIENDS WHO SEEM TO BE MORE DRUNK, THAN THE ALCOHOL THEY  ACTUALLY DRANK.

DON'T DRINK OUT OF A COMMUNITY BOWL, OR PUNCH BOWL.

DON'T SHARE OR EXCHANGE DRINKS. 

WATCH YOUR DRINK SO THAT SOMEONE CAN'T SLIP SOMETHING IN IT.

IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE  BECOMING SEVERELY INTOXICATED AFTER ONLY 1 OR 2 DRINKS, THEN GET HELP.

BEWARE IF SOMEONE WANTS YOU TO GO OUTSIDE TO GET SOME FRESH AIR, ESPECIALLY IF IS SOMEONE YOU JUST MET.         

THESE ARE SOME OF THE THINGS THAT CAN BE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LIFE... AND DEATH FOR YOU.     

THE FINAL THING YOU SHOULD KNOW IS THAT YOU ARE LOVED BY YOUR FAMILY. DON'T PUSH THEM     AWAY. INVOLVE THEM IN YOUR LIFE.  NO MATTER HOW BAD YOU HAVE BEHAVED, OR HOW YOU FEEL     THEY WILL RESPOND TO THIS ISSUE, TALK TO THEM. GET HELP.  YOU DON'T HAVE TO HANDLE THIS    ALONE.   

IF YOU CAN'T TALK TO YOUR FAMILY, THEN FIND A COUNSELOR, FRIEND, MINISTER, RABBI, PRIEST. THERE ARE  A LOT MORE OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP YOU DEAL WITH THE FACT THAT YOU MAY HAVE BEEN DATE-RAPED.

ALWAYS, ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH CONCERNING YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND ACTIONS. DON'T FABRICATE   LIES JUST TO SAVE FACE. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS. IT IS YOUR LIFE... LIVE IT.

LIFE IS FULL OF CHOICES.                                        

THERE IS A STORY BY A WELL KNOWN AUTHOR  CALLED:  THE LADY OR THE TIGER.  IT IS THE STORY  OF    A  KINGDOM WHERE THE KING HAD  A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER.  HE FELT THAT NO ONE WAS GOOD  ENOUGH TO  MARRY HIS DAUGHTER.  HE DECIDED TO MAKE AN INCREDIBLE OFFER WHICH HE KNEW THAT NO MAN   IN HIS  RIGHT MIND WOULD ACCEPT.  

THIS DECREE STATED THAT WHOEVER WANTED TO MARRY HIS BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER MUST CHOOSE  ONE   DOOR. THE LEFT OR THE RIGHT.  BEHIND ONE DOOR WAS HIS DAUGHTER. BEHIND THE OTHER  WAS A FEROCIOUS TIGER. YOU HAD A CHOICE TO HAVE ETERNAL HAPPINESS OR A VICIOUS DEATH.

NO ONE WOULD MAKE THE CHOICE. THUS THE DAUGHTER WAS SAFE UNTIL A MAN DECIDED TO TAKE  THE RISK.  HE ADVISED THE KING OF HIS INTENTIONS.  THE KINGDOM WAS ALIVE WITH EXCITEMENT.  

THE MAN WALKED UP TO THE TWO DOORS, SIDE BY SIDE. THE ROOMS WERE SOUNDPROOF SO HE COULDN'T HEAR WHAT WAS BEHIND THE DOORS.  HE COULD ONLY HOPE.

THE MAN STOOD THERE AND FOR A BRIEF MOMENT OF INDECISION  STARTED TO CHOOSE THE DOOR ON  THE LEFT...BUT THEN CHOSE THE OTHER DOOR.   HE REACHED OUT  WITH TREMBLING HANDS, AND    OPENED THE DOOR.  HIS EYES GOT WIDE AND... AND... 

THE STORY ENDS THERE. YOU ARE TO ONLY IMAGINE WHAT HE SAW. WAS IT LIFE WITH  FULFILLMENT,  OR WAS IT CERTAIN DEATH. NO SECOND CHANCE FOR THIS ONE.

YOU ARE FACING THE SAME AS THIS MAN DID.  YOU HAVE A CHOICE. DRUGS, OR NO DRUGS.  YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WHO WILL NOT LEAD YOU TO DRUGS, OR YOU CAN SIDE WITH THOSE WHO CHOOSE TO DO DRUGS.  AGAIN... IT'S YOUR CHOICE. CHOOSE WISELY.  RIGHT OR WRONG... GOOD OR BAD... IT IS YOUR CHOICE.

YOU CAN'T GO TO THE GARBAGE CAN, CLIMB IN, WALLOW AROUND INSIDE AND WHEN YOU GET OUT...SMELL LIKE ROSES.  IF YOU AREN'T STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY NO... THEN SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE FRIENDS WHO WILL SAY NO. THERE IS STRENGTH IN NUMBERS, SO IF YOU HAVE THE RIGHT KIND OF FRIENDS, YOU WILL HAVE THEIR STRENGTH.

IF YOU HAVE A QUESTION AS TO WHO IS YOUR FRIEND... THEN REMEMBER...FRIENDS WON'T ASK YOU   TO BREAK  THE LAW, OR TAKE A CHANCE OF OVERDOSING, KILLING YOURSELF, AND CAUSING ALL THOSE WHO LOVE YOU TO GRIEVE.

THINK ! CHOOSE THE RIGHT WAY.

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